We set ourselves apart
build walls and barriers
to protect us from what we do not understand
to keep out all we are unwilling to accept
to preserve our sense of self.
We project ideals and ideas onto those we encounter
as we do our failures and weaknesses.
I have often found
when I disapprove of a trait, judge an action
disagree with a choice
I am also guilty in some part.
I see in everyone, bits and pieces of me
that I have not yet adequately addressed
perhaps I dislike these fragments of myself
or they make me angry
If I am to make changes
I should note these projections
inspect my psyche
and weed out my failings and flaws first—
admit to my weaknesses
for these are the wounds that lie beneath the flesh
still tender to the touch.
We are all looking for ourselves in each other
and when we find that person staring back at us
we do not always like what we see
nor are we meant to do so
—we must ask ourselves why.
We are all mixed up pieces of each other
in a world that doesn’t want us to recognise
our similarities, our common ground
and so often—
we love in others what we like in ourselves
we hate in others what we dislike in ourselves.
These lessons are for learning
These pieces are part of us all
to be recognised, attended to, and forgiven
nobody is ever wholly right
and nobody is ever entirely wrong
and nobody is ever pure or perfect
on common ground.